The signs are obvious. The moment a person feels that enthusiasm crushed beneath sarcasm or condescension, they withdraw. Their expression tightens, their voice shifts, their entire presence becomes hesitant. And yet, the Thief of Joy—the one who caused the dimming—may not even notice. Or worse, they might get angry that they’re suddenly being shut out.
But let’s be clear: this isn’t about the person who just got dismissed. It’s a reflection on the one doing the dismissing—an act driven by jealousy, low self-esteem, insecurity, or even just an ingrained habit of negativity.
The truth is, we often rationalize these moments with excuses:
- “I was just joking!”
- “They were being dramatic.”
- “They needed to be humbled.”
But at the heart of it is this simple truth—joy doesn’t need to be “deserved.” It is not something that should be taken down a peg just because it makes others uncomfortable.
The Cost of a Cruel Comment:
One thoughtless remark can linger for hours, days, even years. The person on the receiving end may replay it, internalize it, and even begin suppressing their excitement out of fear of future dismissal.
People may forget your exact words, but they will always remember how you made them feel.
Be a Companion to Joy, Not a Thief
Next time someone shares excitement, passion, or discovery, take a pause. Ask yourself these questions:
✔ Am I supporting them or shutting them down?
✔ Am I responding with curiosity rather than criticism?
✔ Am I making room for their enthusiasm instead of deflecting my own biases onto them?
Being kind costs nothing, but the return is immeasurable. Let’s make room for genuine joy, celebrating one another without hesitation or cynicism.
Stay Woolie
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